Make Healing a Habit
Bruises. Pain. Wounds. Hurt. The things that you do not resolve and the things that you will not let go of will KILL your: opportunities, future, love, peace, destiny, power and the amazing things that God has placed inside of you.
Have you ever had the unpleasant experience of being stung by a bee? Did you realize the bee sting was far less painful than the after effects of the actual sting? This same reasoning applies to life and the traumatic experiences that we face over the course of our lives. So, with that being said, are you taking your anger out on the bee that stung you or are you imparting your hurt onto the people in your life who are only there to love you?
Whether you are still holding on to the pain of having an absent father, failed relationship, or battling past issues; you need to look deep down in your soul to uncover these wounds in order to emerge into wholeness. It is impossible for you to become the woman that God has called you to be, if you don’t make a full commitment to focus on your own personal healing.
Let’s dive into the most important part of this message: Who hurt you? Close your eyes and take a minute to think about everyone in your life who has hurt, used or abused you in some type of way. How do you feel about them? Have you allowed the sting received from these individuals to dictate the way you communicate, love, and view others?
If so, this is very unfair to those people in your life because you are charging them with a crime that they did not commit. It is detrimental to harbor the pain of the past and transcend your negative emotions into your other relationships based on the circumstances of your past encounters. You are truly doing an injustice to the people in your life who care about you by operating out of a place of hurt and not giving your all to those around you.
If life demands something from us in a place where we have been stung, we tend to get mad about it and begin to make excuses; instead of dealing with the issue at hand. For instance, when a person is stung by a bee, the stinger has to be taken out of their body to begin the healing process.
The same is true for us as humans. If we don’t focus on the root of our problems, then we will continue to operate in the dysfunction of our issues and it will destroy us. We have to start from the root, which means digging down in your soul to discover the issues that need to be dealt with by working to heal in every area that is broken. You won’t become free indeed until you let go of anything in life that is hindering you from reaching your full potential.
Everything has a background – that includes problems as well. Think to yourself, “Why are you this way?” For example, during my wholeness journey, I discovered that the reason why it was so difficult for me to fully love others and be emotionally present was because I suffered from abandonment issues due to having an absent father. Due to this unfortunate circumstance, I would always force myself to assume that everyone in my life would leave me at some point, no matter how much they loved me.
The battlefield of the mind is something serious and because I forced myself to believe that the people in my life would eventually leave me, I never gave my full 100% in relationships out of the fear of being abandoned. Later in life, I realized that everyone was different and there are people in the world who have my best interests at heart, but it is not fair to them to be judged and measured with the same stick that I used for those who hurt me. Everyone deserves a fair chance.
Bitterness that is left unresolved will shorten your life span, kill your creativity and kill your chances of loving and being loved. Are you taking out your anger on the bee or the nurse? Whether you are still harboring emotions or grudges towards the person who hurt you – it is time to let it go and forgive.
If you are allowing the pain of the past to dictate your future – it is time to tear down the wall that you have built up and focus on your healing. Find it in your heart to give others a fair chance to love and be there for you, despite the things that you have encountered in the past. The time is now – to stop looking back at your pain and begin to look forward towards your healing and purpose.
You have the power within yourself to rise above all that you have been through!
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